How to Communicate With the Most Important Person You Know

I have wiled away the entire summer lounging about in Connecticut. It was great! I will attempt to catch up by posting a two-part blog about an effective way to communicate with ourselves.

The most common and consistent way to communicate with ourselves is by thinking/talking in our head; a bunch of jumbled words and pictures crossing over and around one disjointed thought after another. Experts say we have up to 60,000 thoughts a day, and that half the time we couldn’t even tell you what we are thinking.

Edgar Allen Poe once said: “I ended up living too much in my head and losing my mind.” Chances are we will not lose our mind by living in our head, but how often do we end up with anything substantial?

A more concrete way to communicate with ourselves, not only to help us through difficult times, but to bring more understanding and order into our lives is by journaling. And of course, an added benefit is to help us discover our hopes and dreams.

When I spoke to a group about this topic, I asked how many in the audience were writers? Four hands went up. But everyone, even those who claim they are not writers are accustomed to writing letters, notes, emails, etcetera. And after all, what is the definition of a writer? Someone who writes!

I learned years ago that when I sit down with paper and pen, or my keyboard, surprising and revealing results DO occur. Anita Brookner said, “You never know what you will learn until you start writing. Then you discover truths you never knew existed.” I couldn’t agree more. In other words, we write to learn about ourselves, and the world we are living in.

I was curious about what happens in the brain when we write. How is it that thoughts become more clear? My research revealed that the part of the brain that is associated with speaking and writing is the frontal lobe. This area is also responsible for movement, reasoning, judgment, planning and problem solving. The parietal lobe is also important. This part of the brain interprets words and language. When we write something down we are actually stimulating a collection of cells in the base of our brain known as the reticular activating system. The RAS is the filter for bringing all of the information we are focused on to the forefront which triggers the brain to pay close attention.

I truly believe that when we communicate fully with ourselves, we have the opportunity for an adventure ‒ “an exciting and remarkable experience.” So, pick up a pen and connect with that extraordinary voice within.

Tomorrow, I will disclose another proven method of communicating with the most important person you know — yourself.